Often times in life when we receive a compliment, we’re quick to negate it or brush it aside by immediately complimenting the other person. That’s why easier to focus on the negative than see the positive.
Recently I read a blog about the importance of accepting compliments and it really struck a chord.
“How many times have you been told to “just take the compliment”? Think about [that] language. Taking a compliment is merely putting up with what you’re being told. Compare this to accepting a compliment: you not only receive the words from the complimenter, you accept that the description may apply to you. Believing the compliment is exactly as it sounds — and it is really hard to do.
If you’re like me--a ducks-in-a-row-kind-of person—you know that it’s easy to get caught up planning for the future. It’s also cause for getting overwhelmed because you constantly have something to do.
With college graduation looming, and life about to be in transition, I’ve recently talked with my friends about how to cope. Our conclusion…. be selfish!
There is such a negative connotation with the word "selfish" because people assume it means being greedy. To me, being selfish also means taking care of yourself. And by simply putting self-improvement on the top of the list, others will see the light that burns within.
You ask: How am I supposed to “be selfish?” So simple, my friends!
Make a list of things that make you happy. It could be something a simple as reading a magazine, painting your toes, or working out. It could be more involved: traveling, writing a screenplay, or joining an art class. Each day do at least one thing on that list. The better you feel, the more things you’ll do on that list
Once you’re happy with yourself (or getting there), others sense it. Who doesn't want to be around somebody who emulates an inner peace and positive thinking?
Go ahead, flick the light on. It's a bright place to be.
I recently came across the Glamour Reel Moments website and thought the three films on there were delightful and empowering. Courtney Cox and Demi Moore did a wonderful job directing and watch them if you have some free time.
About the Project "Glamour Reel Moments is an award winning short film series inspired by Glamour readers' real life moments. Glamour Reel Moments is responsible for launching 14 directorial debuts by some of the most powerful women in Hollywood over the past four years -- and counting..... The making of these films is by women and for women."
My mother recently told me about an NPR interview with a London born singer named Adele. Kanye West also mentioned her as "dope" in his always entertaining blog. Therefore, I immediately thought of the song "American Boy" by Estelle featuring Kanye West because I assumed it was shameless self promotion. It was only until I actually bought the CD that I realized Adele and Estelle were not the same woman. Long story short I can't stop listening to Adele's new CD and I highly recommend buying it.
I recently read a book that everyone raved about. And let's just say I ate, prayed, and did not love.
It's easy to become turned off of reading if you don't relate to your book in some way. It becomes a chore. Think back to reading for school. How many kids are cheating by watching the movie or reading the Cliff Notes.
But, as an adult, our reading time is our own, thankfully. So why not choose titles--and genres--you like? We're grown-ups, after all, and can eat candy for dinner if we want.
The feeling of falling into a book and being completely captivated by the story is unlike any other. With the craziness of life, it's easy to forget and dismiss this simple pleasure. After the Eat-Pray-Love foray, I read the Twilight series by Stephanie Meyer. I was captivated. Her descriptions of a vampire romance (it’s not what you think) was just the right mix to keep me in my comfy chair for hours on end. I remembered how much fun it can be to escape into a different world. I admit that at first, I felt guilty for not reading a high-brow book but then I realized it didn't matter…I was reading! I was loving it!
For anyone who is looking for an alternative way to stop unwanted behavior, I challenge you to think about Hypnotherapy.
Hypnotherapy is very interesting. It’s not what you would think. There is no swinging pocket watches or going cross-eyed. I can only equate it to the feeling of lying in a bathtub, perfectly still, in which it almost feels like your not in water…like your floating and your body is slightly numb.
To put it simply, hypnotherapy relaxes your mind so you can only can think about relaxing your muscles and body. It then allows you to think about things you want to change, problems you want to solve, and the strength you have to do it.
It is something that you have to be really open to, otherwise forget it.